What makes you and me what we are today? What was it in our makeup and wiring as well as in our experiences and mentorship that has gotten us to this point?
Thinking of this question a bit differently, what is it that has caused you to stop being you? Was it a comment made or the disapproval of someone significant in your life that has caused you to settle into someone you never thought you would be?
On the positive side, did a coach or a parent help to shape you by giving you a practical roadmap to become the leader that you wanted to become.
The leader’s journey is an important process to observe. If you want to know which way a leader will go or the decisions they will make you only need to look backwards and see who they were groomed under and the decisions they have made in the past. Our present leadership is the culmination of past experiences and apprenticeship mixed with our personality and nature.
Lance Humphrey’s, CEO of Anthology Destinations, is one of the best leaders I have ever met and it is no wonder. Lance is who he is because his father poured into him well in his nurturing years and because his wiring is suited to lead well. Even more, Lance has chosen to learn as much as possible from men much older than himself. This desire for growth has affected him. He is who his mentors were and are on his path for being a leader worth following. Because he has become secure in that he can now give himself away to dozens of young leaders needing inspiration, wisdom and clarity.
Leaders define the culture. And leaders become whom they were cultured by and the experiences that occurred. Bad leaders tend to have had little positive influence in their lives and simply commit the same sins to others that they experienced for themselves.
That is why your journey matters so much. As you go so do so many around you.
- Do what it takes to know yourself well.
- Review your past and the positive and negative influences on you.
- Ask yourself this question, “How have I passed on the negative influences of my life onto the lives of others.” Ask the opposite from a positive perspective as well.
- Respond to any that you have negatively affected with proper remorse. Set it right.
As you go, so do others.
We are who we are. While we can’t change our yesterday’s, we can absolutely affect tomorrow, and quite possibly today.
When reviewing your leadership journey, realize that it affects more than you. Hundreds of people are affected by you becoming secure, confident and humble. Make level paths for your feet and for those that are coming behind you.